Beyond Fiction

We all know that we must understand where are priorities are! Of course, most of us who have blogs about genealogy know that there is a certain place in our heart for our family history research. However, where does that rate in terms of other things in our life? For me, I am having to re-prioritize things.

For a long time I have put genealogy at the forefront of my life. I’m only 46 and have 3 children and a loving wife. I’ve got a fulltime job, I’ve got a son in the military, a new daughter-in-law and soon I’ll have my first grandchild. Where are my priorities? My first priority, above all things, is my wonderful wife. She is the only one who has ever truly loved me and has made my life so much better. Believe me, she has had plenty of opportunities to opt out but she has persevered with me through thick and thin. My next priorites are my children and now my daughter-in-law! Soon, I’ll have my grandchild in the mix.

There are other family members who are also important to me. In the course of the last year I have watched my relationship with siblings, cousins, aunts, uncles and some others deteriorate. Some of this has been my fault and some of it has been the fault of others but the main point is that I have not focused on these things. In my continuing desire to find out about my dead ancestors I have ignored those who are still living and are a vital part of my life. This is not the way it should be.

Yes, I’ve let this blog kind of fall by the wayside lately and I am so sorry for that. However, I feel that the things I have tried to focus on are more important. I’ve worked tons of overtime to try to catch up some debts and with an economy as we have I should be very thankful that I have the opportunity to do so. I am finally beginning to reap the rewards of all this. There is a light at the end of the tunnel and things are looking much better for me, my family and those around me who are so important to me.

There are some problems and relationships I have not been able to fix. Perhaps the solution I chose was wrong but I believe that sometimes extreme actions are necessary to at least try to get certain people to focus on the problem. Those who are involved in that know who you are and I hope and pray that someday you will wake up to just what the problem is!

I know this is long and rambling but I just wanted to let everyone know just where I stand right now. I’ll occasionally post. As things happen I will make sure to let everyone know what is up. As I find new discoveries in my genealogy I will post them but my main focus right now is getting what I have organized and then going from there.

So, with all that said I would like to wish you all a wonderful week and a great holiday season. I dont’ know when I will post next but I will eventually post more. Until then, best wishes to you all!